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Sunday, June 10, 2012

Arrange marriage...the family choice.

Many typical himalayan wants to marry a man from well acustomed family...own lots of jeweleries and have status in the society. Be helpful to the in law family and basically have a happy family. Have children and all those family thing. But the sad thing is that they tends to give up on their own dream...sometimes even on the guy that they love initially. If i were not educated, i would be doing the same thing...but im so fortunate to have family that set education as the highest priority. I am not pointing out these all as negative, but just wanted to express my feelings as a women grown up in the highly restricted culture, where arrange marriage is the most important thing when it comes to marriage. Even being educated girl, i am not objecting arrange marraige, but still i think girl should at least have some right or choice in selecting their life partner. The most important thing is to get marry when you are really ready to make that commitment, as for me I take marriage as a committment. So, its interesting to see that arrange marriage still exist and it tends to have long lasting relationship...and the love tends to grow after...Even my brother got arrange marriage when he already had a girl of his dream...But due to all the family dramas, he end up getting arrange marriage and now he thinks he is the most lucky husband...
My brother and his wife...

Why is it so complicated to take a next step when you are bound with family value system?


In my point of view, its just the way we are brought up. We tends to look back often than what lies ahead of us. Especially coming from conservative and strong cultural background, we always think about others more often than ourselves. For example, if we want to do something, first thing that comes to mind is what will other think about it or how they will perceive it. We care more about family values, prestige, cultural, background, etc. Why it is hard to follow own will and just not to think about others. Even we know we can do it, but still there is a instinct that does not allow us to do. In some cases, I appreciate what we are doing does not affect anything and It brings happiness in the family...but still there are certain things that just keep us back...in doing things that are fun sometimes....like hangingout with friends, wearing fancy clothes, having different views about things...overall more open minded...I tell people that im open minded but somewhat i feel like im not in certain thing...LOL

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Finally the education supplies have reached Nepal.........

Thank You Letter from School's Principal

School Children having lunch in an open air.

My uncle Gyaltso took helped me to fulfill this project

Indira Bista dai helping to distribute the school supplies

Children personally choosing what they want and thats what i want...

Sunday, November 20, 2011

Crookston Lions Club keeps children of Himalayan warm during the chilly winter!!!

Being an international lions member, I was able to cooperate with Crookston International Lions Club to help with a project. We didnot come up with specific name for the project, but we called it, "Helping children of Mustang." I did presentation about Mustang, especially focusing on the education and children during one of the Lions weekly meeting. My purpose for the presentation was to give awareness to the other part of the world the situation and system of education in Nepal, especially in the remote area and the life of children. I asked the Lions to help me with this project as the Lions were also very eager to help these children of Mustang. So, during every weekly meeting, every Lions members contributed something for the project either socks, toothbrush, books and money. My sincere grattitude goes to Jeannine Windel (District governor of Lions, Crookston), Laurie Wilson (Lions member) and all the other members who contributed so much to this project. So, finally Lions were able to collect 90 Pairs of Socks, 40-50 tooth brushes, Books and $300 for the children of Mustang. My uncle Gyaltso Gurung will be visiting the government schools of Lomanthang in Pokhara for their winter session, so he will be giving the stuff to the chidren and send me some pictures and a letter of appreciation to Crookston Lions Club!!!

Sunday, September 25, 2011

First project of helping children of Lomanthang!

WIth the help of Sister Groups from Crookston, MN and Mustang Samaj of New York City and motivations from friends, i was able to see one of my dream coming true. With a great encoragement from a friend, i was able to collect for a fund from Mustang Samaj with the amount of $520 and $150 from RARA Group of Jackson Height, NY. I spent $480 on shipping to Nepal. And now i have a balance of $190, which i saved for future use. It was so rewarding to do these all, even though it took some time, dedication, and hard work. BUT the satisfaction and happiness one get from helping others is the BEST..And i hope from this very small project, others can be part of serving others. For all this project, I would like to thank Sister Group, Mustang Samaj, RARA Group, Tashi Bista and Yangchen Dolker....for all their help, support and motivation...
Educational supplies collected with the help of Sister Group from Crookston, MN

Sister Group and I packing the supplies to send Nepal!

Children at the Day Care of Lomanthang received the toys we sent!

Children enjoying thier first personal picture story book!

When one teaches, two learn.
Robert Half

Tuesday, December 28, 2010

A little bit about me! While i was at college...



When you do something, think of the consequences or the result that will bring. There are times, that i feel frustrated, tired and hopeless in doing those things that are not very preferreable by many colleges students to do during their free times. But i did it with my heart open because i know doing and showing others examples will definately make a difference. And i really really hope that others see the same things and do their best to help this world to make better place for everyone to live.  There are so many things that we all should be committed to....and it all begins with the small thing...

Friday, November 19, 2010

Bringing diversity in a larger community!

http://www.grandforksherald.com/event/article/id/183951/
Published November 18 2010
A learning experience
Nepal native becomes first woman in her village to receive college education as she excels at UMC
For Nepal native Lhakpa Gurung, education is a gift to pass on to others. Gurung, who grew up in the mountain village of Mustang, will graduate from the University of Minnesota-Crookston in May with a degree in early childhood education. She is the first in her family of eight to earn a college degree and, as far as she knows, the first woman from her village to receive a college education.
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UMC's Lhakpa Gurung, Nepal, has received a Scholarly Excellence in Equity and Diversity and a Tapestry award from the main campus U of M. Herald photo by Eric Hylden.
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CROOKSTON — For Nepal native Lhakpa Gurung, education is a gift to pass on to others.
Gurung, who grew up in the mountain village of Mustang, will graduate from the University of Minnesota-Crookston in May with a degree in early childhood education. She is the first in her family of eight to earn a college degree and, as far as she knows, the first woman from her village to receive a college education.
Gurung wants to use that education to teach women and children in her village and to improve the educational system there.
“Teaching is my passion,” she said. She has been interested in teaching since she was a child, Gurung said.
This summer, Gurung went home to her village and taught young people about the importance of agriculture, the basics of capitalism and how entrepreneurs add value to the marketplace.
“I always think, ‘Education is important in life.’” Gurung said. “If you have an education, nobody can steal it from you.” She has seen the effect that a lack of education has had on some of her family members, she said.
Gurung appreciates that her father, who is a farmer growing potatoes, wheat, barley and mustard, and her mother, a homemaker, believe in the importance of education, even though they aren’t educated themselves.
Her parents also are pleased with the academic accomplishments and awards she has earned during her three and a half years at UMC.
In October, Gurung received the University of Minnesota Women of Color 2010 Tapestry Award which is given to students who help create a thriving campus community where diversity is welcomed and supported. Gurung student-teaches in Crookston schools and at the child development center on campus, belongs to several campus organizations and is a residential hall manager.
She also talks with other students and members of the Crookston community about the importance of having women of color in positions in which they can be a role model, a UMC news release said.
Besides the Tapestry Award, Gurung also recently was named a Scholarly Excellence in Equity and Diversity award winner by the University of Minnesota. Award recipients are diverse students who represent impressive achievement and leadership in academic activism, and/or community outreach and activism, UMC said.
The UMC faculty and her advisers have given Gurung a lot of one-on-one academic support and helped her see the many opportunities available to her, she said. Her younger brother and a cousin have followed in her footsteps and also are attending UMC; her younger sister also plans to attend after she graduates from high school.
“It’s very fortunate for us to get an education in America,” Gurung said.

Reach Bailey at (701) 787-6753; (800) 477-6572, ext. 753; or send e-mail to abailey@gfherald.com.